Here’s something I’ve been thinking about for a long time.
It’s inspired by a single sentence I read once in a large volume of writing by personal improvement pioneer James Allen…
“You will become as small as your controlling desire
My thoughts on this…
Entrepreneurs and high achievers have a ton of aspiration; it’s the fuel that often drives us to create things. But what is our dominant aspiration? And, does our dominant aspiration change day-to-day? (I think it often does.)
Meanwhile, as a limiting force, we have a controlling desire (for stasis, for security, for predictability) and that keeps us from really pressing on the gas and speeding toward our aspiration.
At any given moment, we have both battling for their attention in our minds. I don’t think there can be a balance. You have both at war inside you right now and most of us will end up settling somewhere in between our dominant aspiration and our controlling desire, wishing in retrospect that we’d done more.
What if we could shed those controlling desires? Just imagine how close we could get to our dominate aspiration!
The lessons for me?
1. Pick a dominant aspiration and go full tilt on that one thing relentlessly. Avoid distractions. Raise my aspirations even higher.
2. Battle daily against those controlling desires for stasis and predictability. Seek them out and smash them because they are holding you back.
Put another way, I think people dream big but are held back by fear of risk and pain and failure. Sure, it’s not constant and overwhelming but it’s there… always in the back of the mind: “don’t give 100% because if
And the truth is, it IS costly at times. As I write this I’m paying an expensive price for going for a dream that hasn’t worked out the way I want. (Fortunately, it’s not central to my life and livelihood so I can work around it but it’s a HUGE and COSTLY hassle… and I hate how it’s going to make me feel more