Stop complaining

A few weeks ago, we had our first snowfall. It wasn’t a huge amount and it didn’t stick around. It was one of those things where it was unseasonably cold and wet, so some of the rain turned to snow and the ground turned a little white and frosty. Nothing crazy, and certainly nothing that people from my city (Winnipeg) can’t handle. We usually get a ton of snow from November through February. It was just a small amount a little earlier than usual. No big deal.

But there was a bunch of complaining about it on Facebook and on Twitter. People groaned about how much Winnipeg sucked because of the weather.

I’m sick of the complaining. Not just about the recent snow. I also hear people complaining about the hot weather. Or wet weather. Or politicians. Or service at restaurants. Or products they use. Or bosses. Or coworkers. Or customers. Everything and anything. There’s an election coming up and although there are a lot of things that annoy me about politicians, I get more annoyed by people who don’t vote yet complain about the elected official.

Please stop complaining. About everything.

Life isn’t always easy or smooth, nor does it always go the way we want it to. Bitching about it doesn’t help.

If you encounter something you don’t like, make a change.

  • If possible, change the external circumstances. Complainers about the weather should just move somewhere else where they think it’s going to be better. (Hint: There’s always going to be weather you don’t like). If you don’t like your politician then vote for someone else. If it’s the middle of their term, write to them and voice your opinion. Or run for office yourself. If you don’t like a product or service, spend your money elsewhere.
  • If you can’t change the external circumstances, change yourself. Since you can’t change the external circumstances, learn to accept (or at least tolerate) the thing you don’t like. I’m not an outdoorsy kind of person but I like Winnipeg weather because it’s so dramatic and bipolar and mostly quite nice… and I also like that other people don’t like it. (I’m weird that way). In politics, I hold in very high respect people who say something like “I didn’t vote for the President but he’s my Commander-In-Chief and I’ll respect that for the rest of his term”.

Hey, there are things I don’t like: Winnipeg weather can be very wet and my basement has flooded more than once because of it. I’m growing weary of an ongoing home renovation that feels like it will never end. I sometimes get sick of big projects at the 65%-completed mark. I hate the amount of tax that I pay. I don’t like these things but I try not to complain; I either try to make an external change (when possible) or I suck it up. I’m not always perfect and I do catch myself complaining but most of it is completely useless.

Complaining doesn’t help unless it’s constructive criticism pointed at the source of the problem and given to catalyze change. Imagine what would happen if we all stopped complaining and instead started making positive change whenever we encountered something we didn’t like.

Published by Aaron Hoos

Aaron Hoos is a writer, strategist, and investor who builds and optimizes profitable sales funnels. He is the author of The Sales Funnel Bible and other books.

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