This post is part of a series of posts based on my Manifesto Of Hard. If you want to create change in your life, embrace hardship and thrive in it. That’s what I’m studying this month, and this post shares some of those findings with you…
This is probably my favorite aspect of hardship: learning.
I’m insatiably curious and always want to learn something new. But, over the years, that learning has moved from a passion for theoretical information to practical/applicable/experiential learning. In other words, I don’t want to just read something in a book, I want to be wrestle it to the ground.
Hardship has a lot to teach us… about ourselves. I think that’s why I love it. It’s easy when things are easy but when things are hard, that’s when you learn the truth about someone—about how they think, how they act, how they react. I haven’t always liked how I’ve thought, acted, or reacted when things have been challenging so I intentionally create more challenges now, in controlled circumstances, to perfect my thought processes, actions, and reactions.
I think back to times like: when I’ve been robbed and assaulted, when I bought a house in a different country, when I was stranded in a snowstorm on a mountain road. These and other circumstances have revealed the best and worst aspects about myself and I try to reflect on them afterward to become a better person.
The most practical advice I can give you is: do something challenging then reflect on it afterward. Pick something that is possible but challenging and try it. Maybe ramp up your workout or take a huge hike this weekend that pushes what you think you can achieve. See what happens. Do you get bored? Do you give up easily? Do you push through and discover inner reserves?