We’ve had brutally cold weather here lately. Basically the temperature has been hovering around -40 with the windchill (and for those who don’t know, -40 Celsius is also -40 Fahrenheit… so “cold” is better described as “dangerously cold”). As a result, I hear A LOT of people complaining about the temperature.
To be fair, -40 is cold. I’m not denying that. But is it worth complaining about? No. Complaining about the weather, or anything else for that matter, is not worth the effort.
Regardless of whether life has dealt you a rough hand in business, relationships, health, (the weather!) or whatever, here are 7 reasons why we all need to stop complaining:
- Stating a fact is okay. Sharing your trouble with others is good. But complaining (bemoaning how difficult it is for you to exist in the given circumstances) is not okay. The longer you complain about the something, the more you are trying to force your opinion on others.
- Complaining about something doesn’t change anything.
- If we can change the circumstances then we should. If we can’t change the circumstances (as with the example of the weather) then we can at least change how we operate in those circumstances. (Again, to use the example of the weather: You can dress warm, stay inside… or move away).
- Complaining takes time. So does saying something positive. Since time is something that we use up and cannot get back, why not spend your time thinking about the positive?
- Complaining takes energy. It uses up some of our energy to do and it sort-of sucks the happiness out of other people’s lives. We don’t want to be remembered as a person who made other people unhappy, do we?
- Complaining about our circumstances is silly. We are alive. We are breathing. Life might not be perfect but it’s pretty darn good (compared to what many other people are facing). Someone always has it worse and when we complain about our situation, we selfishly focus on our needs and ignore the hardship of others.
- We are given just a few years on this earth. Don’t you want to leave it in better shape than when you arrived? Complaining won’t help. Instead, there are tons of positive changes we can make in our own lives and in the lives of other people to help make this world a better place.
Next time you want to complain about something, please take a moment and think about whether or not you are contributing to a better world. Then replace your complaining with action — constructive criticism is okay, so is charitable effort, so is hard work, so is embracing big changes. All of those are better solutions to complaining.